Coloring as an Adult

Many people have decided that they want to do something artistic in their free time. In order to find something that is easy to do and still takes creative, many have turned to coloring. Yes, like the kind little kids do, only on bigger, more detailed coloring pages.

Adult coloring is not a new concept, but it’s one many people aren’t sure they understand. Sure, coloring is fun. It reminds you of a simpler time in your life when you were a child and coloring was a fun pastime. Now it’s an escape, and it reminds you of the joy found in simplicity. What you might not know is coloring in an adult coloring book is more than a fun pastime. It’s a mental break filled with benefits designed to help you ease stress.

Adult Coloring Calms You

Have you heard of amygdala? If not, you’ve certainly heard of a fight or flight response. This is what happens when you’re overwhelmed, overworked, and anxious. It gets worked up and leaves you feeling panicked. Coloring helps calm the amygdala, which can help you focus on a more positive life experience.

Think of calm ways to destress. Coloring might be one way

Adult Coloring Encourages Mindfulness

It takes a great deal of time and effort to color a page in a book made for adults. It takes precision and careful thought, which can help you manifest mindfulness. It’s a great way to help you focus. When you learn to focus and be genuinely present in the moment, you learn to be more mindful. Mindfulness helps you in other areas of your life, such as finding enjoyment in the simple things. What you might not know you can focus on your mindfulness while you color, and you can sharpen the tools you use to practice being more present in life.

Adult Coloring Relieves Stress

Stress isn’t always negative. Many forms of stress are actually quite helpful in that they help you focus on things that need your attention. This is called positive stress that motivates you to work harder and more efficiently. When stress is overwhelming, however, it’s negative. This kind of negative stress occurs when you focus on things you can’t change in life no matter how hard you think about them or focus on them. It stems from worry, which is a wasted emotion.

Adult coloring books take your mind off the things you fear or worry about, and it helps you focus on the here and now. It’s much like mindfulness only it allows you to feel calmer and less stressed. You might even walk away from your coloring pages with a renewed sense of energy and a newfound sense of peace thanks to the stress relief.

Adult coloring books are an excellent way to improve mental health. You needn’t suffer from health issues to use these books to help you improve your life, either. Even if you aren’t anxious or too stressed, you can benefit from adult coloring. It’s designed to remind you of the simple pleasures life has to offer.

How do you start coloring? You can purchase coloring books at the local 99 cent store. Look for ones that look interesting to you. Michaels has larger coloring books for sale. There are also coloring pages online about all sorts of topics. Just type in your topic and add the words “coloring pages”.

Coloring page example of a butterfly.

It does not take much get started. Print a page off the computer. Buy or gather together your crayons, colored pencils, or markers. Find a quiet time to let your brain create a colorful picture.

ATC- Art Trading Cards

Recently I got into Artist Trading Cards. These are 3.5 inch by 2.5 inch cards with art on them. I trade them with other artists online. I love getting snail mail and trading gets me some mail. It’s fun to see what I can create.

I hope you enjoy some of my art.

7 Points to Remember When Setting Goals

Here are some things that you should keep in mind when you are setting your goals.

Use goals to achieve your purpose.

What purpose will this goal achieve? Do you really want that result? Will it help you in some way? This is a very important point to consider. Oftentimes, we set goals without thinking about its importance in our life. We need to set priorities about the things we want out of life when we are setting goals. It is only when the goal is practical and purposeful will we stay motivated to achieve it.

Whose help can you enlist? For most goals we set, we need a collective effort to fulfill them. That is the reason we should be clear in our minds about the people who can help us to achieve our goals.

What constraints and difficulties will you have when you are setting your goal? Your goal achievement is not going to be a simple process. You will have to exert yourself to some extent. You will have to do things that you won’t ordinarily do. But, it really helps if you know beforehand what kinds of difficulties you might have when you are trying to achieve your goals. Think about these difficulties and how you will surmount them.

To raise red roses takes a plan. Plan your goals for your life.

Of all the constraints, you will find that there is one constraint, which you can term as the primary constraint. In most cases, this primary constraint is money. It could be something else for you, like a mindset that you have developed and you need to fight with in order to reach towards your goal. Analyze this primary constraint.

Make your plans to fight this primary constraint. You need to move on ahead, and overcoming this chief difficulty is going to take you several notches ahead towards fulfilling your goals. So, focus your energies on this one primary constraint and the remainder of your path will smoothen itself out.

Enjoy the process. You have to always stay motivated and inspired. Read self-help books that can help you. Do things that you like to do, even as you are inching towards your goals. Do not forget your family and friends. Love yourself too. Treat yourself in the way you like, or your body is going to rebel against you and you will find goal accomplishment difficult.

Look forward to the results. You should always want your goals to be fulfilled so bad that you can almost taste it. You want to make it happen. It is only when you are so relentless about it can you make a good deal out of your goal setting and, thus, your life.

Reap the results.

These are the things you have to keep in mind about your goal setting. Try them out and you will find that things always work for you.

How to be Decisive and Take Action

Modern Day Warrior

You may wonder why there is any need for you to become a modern-day warrior and adopt a warrior mindset. What is wrong with just relaxing and enjoying life?

Well, while there is nothing wrong with relaxing per-say and while we all need to relax and lighten up from time to time, there are many scenarios where our soft and domesticated nature lets us down.

Take any situation that needs a quick and decisive decision. Few of us are forced to make important life or death situations anymore and that’s why so many of us struggle with even the simplest, easiest decisions. We find ourselves paralyzed when forced to choose what to eat. We delay important decisions in the workplace to the detriment of our careers – often resulting in lots of money lost. We stay in relationships and jobs we aren’t happy in and we often end up losing the respect of those around us, simply because we’re unable to make up our minds and act decisively.

This is a perfect example of a situation where it would be highly beneficial to have a tougher, more warrior-like mindset. Here’s how you can go about cultivating it.

Use what you know to make decisions.

Why Do You Delay?

In order to help you make decisions faster and more effectively, it’s time to think about what might be causing you to delay in the first place.

For many of us, the answer to that question has something to do with fear: fear of getting the decision wrong.

In some cases this is obvious: we might be fearful to decide which stock to invest in or which job offer to take because we don’t want to face the consequences of getting it wrong: of being stuck in a job we hate and/or losing huge amounts of money.

But many of us also struggle to make decisions about smaller things. Like what to have for dinner! Perhaps your wife or husband asked what you want and you say ‘I don’t know’.

Their response: ‘just make a decision!’

Your answer: ‘why don’t you make a decision?’

Sound familiar?

The problem here is likely that you don’t want to be responsible for getting it wrong and upsetting your partner. If you make the wrong choice and they don’t like dinner, then it might put them in a bad mood.

Likewise, you might genuinely want to be polite and give them the choice.

How to Make Decisions Quickly and be More Commanding

So how do you overcome this weakness and start making decisions more quickly?

The answer is simple: you learn to face the consequences and take responsibility.

This means you can offer for the other person to make a decision once and then make your mind up. Accept that sometimes you’ll get it wrong. Accept that they might indeed be in a bad mood. But don’t delay further: just take the consequences.

The same goes for choosing a job, choosing a project, opting to end a relationship…

Simply and quickly run through the likely outcomes of each decision. One is bad, one is worse. Stop worrying about getting it wrong and just tell yourself that you will deal with that scenario if it comes to pass.

Think about Things Differently.

How to Develop Situational Awareness

Anyone who has seen the Bourne Identity might be interested in the notion of situational awareness. There’s a scene toward the beginning of that film where Jason Bourne is trying to work out his identity. He’s alarmed at the way his own mind has been trained to work and explains that within minutes of walking into a diner, he has assessed the weight and strength of other patrons, memorized the car number plates of the cars parked outside, identified the exits and even noticed that the bartender is left-handed.

Jason Bourne stays aware of his environment.

This kind of training really does exist among intelligence officers and military personnel. It’s called ‘situational awareness’ and it essentially involves being able to quickly and easily identify key facts about your surroundings.

Situational awareness is important for everyone though and certainly for those interested in cultivating a warrior mindset. Situational awareness allows us to identify potential threats faster so that we can avoid or neutralize them. It allows us to move quickly and efficiently when the situation calls for it and ultimately it lets us keep ourselves and others safer.

Problem is, most of us have our mind on other things: things like our office, Angry Birds, debt, relationships and the girl at the office with the short skirt.

How do we get our mind back in the game and start paying attention to the things that matter to us and to those we care about?

Be aware of mind games people play around you and with you.

The OODA Loop

In the excellent Art of Manliness article, writer Brett McKay describes a method used by Air Force fighter pilot/military strategist John Boyd. OODA is a four step process that tells us to:

Observe

Orient

Decide

Act

First then, you must observe. This means that you mustn’t completely relax and kick your feet up. In neuroscience terms, you mustn’t let your ‘default mode network’ kick in (essentially, you must keep your mind on what’s happening). You should be relaxed yes, but also alert.

Position yourself in any room in such a position that you can see the maximum number of people and avoid letting people get the jump on you. A good example would be the corner of a room with your back to the wall. Remain near an exit where possible.

The next step is to orient, which in this context means looking for specific things. Establish a ‘baseline’ by thinking about the normal behaviour and conditions for a certain area. Look out for examples of deviation from this norm. Does someone look uncomfortable? Is someone inappropriately dressed? Is there a noise that shouldn’t be there?

Next decide whether or not to act and how to act. Have a plan of action and do not hesitate. Trust your instinct at this stage and if in doubt, practice caution. Someone acting suspiciously or potentially violently? Try moving away from them, or alerting them to security. Find an area has an unusual vibe? Then get your family out of there.

Practicing these tips could one day save your life and at the very least, they will help you to adopt a warrior mentality that will be felt by those around you.

As a Warrior in life, have an action plan.

Dialysis Isn’t Just Treatment Times

Dialysis is not just going to treatment for a certain set of hours.

It is dealing with doctors and nurses.

It is changing your diet.

It is fluid restriction.

It is aches and pains in your body.

It is getting ready to go to dialysis treatments and getting ready to leave those treatments.

It’s staying for your entire time and not losing your mind.

Dialysis is a mindset.

Dialysis is access surgeries and problems.

.Dialysis is lonely if you do not have a community to relate to or a family who backs you.

Dialysis means lifestyle changes.

Dialysis is a set of six doctors who see you regularly, not including the dialysis center team.

Dialysis is needles, large ones.

Dialysis is having a team that works with you, hounds you, and even yells at you over things.

You can choose to live to dialyze or choose to dialyze to live.

Hallmarks of a True Warrior

In today’s modern world, we don’t tend to think of people as warriors anymore. Most of us are pencil pushers rather than fighters and it is very rare that we ever have to put ourselves in harm’s way or take on a gang of enemies.

This is a good thing for the most part, but it has resulted in many of us becoming soft and weak willed.

And the reality is that we don’t need to give up on being warriors. Just because we don’t need to fight anymore, that doesn’t mean we can’t approach modern challenges as warriors. It doesn’t mean that you can’t benefit from adopting a warrior’s mindset.

And it doesn’t mean that there really aren’t any modern warriors left. There are those fighting on our front lines and there are those who simply approach modern challenges and obstacles with the mindset of a warrior from times gone by. In this post, we’ll take a look at what makes a true warrior and at whether you might fit that mold.

If not, then this list will help you to better understand the areas where you should aim to improve your conduct…

Takes the Harder Path

The warrior is someone who has a steadfast mission and who knows what they want to achieve. They have a purpose and a reason for being and as such, they are driven like few others.

Thus, the warrior doesn’t give in and take the easy route. They don’t relax on the couch and eat cake, they don’t blame others for their mistake. The warrior is happy to take the harder path if it takes them closer to their goal and if it helps them to become stronger in the process.

The warrior is happy to take the harder path if it takes them closer to their goal and if it helps them to become stronger in the process.

Sees Obstacles As Challenges

In a similar vein, the warrior does not see challenges as something to be feared or cursed. When things are going wrong, the warrior relishes the opportunity to develop themselves and to test themselves.

Accept challenges. Over come obstacles.

Doesn’t Give In to Fear

The warrior is not without fear, but they have it under control. The warrior knows how to use their fear as a motivator and how to suppress it when appropriate.

Stays Calm in a Stressful Situations

When everyone else is panicking, the warrior stays calm and focussed. They know what they need to accomplish and they know that getting in a flap won’t help anyone.

Looks After Their Body and Mind

While there may be few physical fights left, the warrior knows that they owe it to themselves and to those around them to look after their bodies and to train for a battle that may never come. The warrior doesn’t allow themselves to grow weak in times of plenty, they train, they hone and they respect their bodies and minds.

What are you training for?

Takes Responsibility

The warrior is quick to take action and to make decisions, the main reason being that they are not afraid to take responsibility for their action. They gladly carry a great weight on their shoulders, knowing that they will face whatever comes.

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Kidney Disease Warrior

When I began dialysis, I was in for a fight for my life. I acquired pieces of armor to help me.

Fight of my Life

I earned a helmet by thinking of and using ways to help myself.  Body armor came through my research, reading, and work I do within the dialysis community. The medical team is a sword to fight my kidney disease. Family and friends are a shield of support.  Power ups to my entire armor strengthen me.  I put this armor on to fight kidney disease every day.

Mental Challenges, Staying Positive Helmet

The helmet I wear helps with mental challenges end stage renal disease brings.  ‘I dialyze to live; I don’t live to dialyze’ is my mantra after twenty years of dialysis.  Things that make me happy have become a priority. I throw prayers to the universe. Getting out of the house with family and friends helps when the same four walls close in. Sometimes taking life one second, one minute, one hour at a time is all I can do to fight. 

Learn and Share about Kidney Disease and Dialysis

The armor that protects my body is made up of the things I do to learn and share about renal disease and dialysis. My knowledge comes from research, reading, and talking to people. I enter the RSNhope.org essay contest every year. My blog http://lifeonthelist.com is about being a permanent dialysis patient. I visit websites and Facebook groups to talk about patient experiences. I am an administrator for Ihatedialysis.com. I became a ‘subject matter expert’ this year in my dialysis center working with ESRD Network #18 to disseminate information to patients. 

My Medical Team is my sword

I use my medical team as a sword in the battle against end-stage kidney disease and dialysis.  I attend every dialysis treatment scheduled. I stay for the hours I am on the machine. I tell the center doctor about any problems concerning dialysis. We work together to solve problems. I go to my medical appointments outside the center. There are six doctors on my team. I try to see each one at least every six months. I take my medication as prescribed and pay attention to the side effects.

My family and friends as a shield

The shield I use to protect myself in battle is my family supporting me.  My sisters help whenever I call for a ride to dialysis. My family comes to sit with me when I am in the hospital. I get hospital psychosis sometimes and their visits help me to stay grounded. They bring meals to my house when I am ill. We celebrate holidays by sharing the cooking and cleanup. We take trips that get me out of the house.  They allow me to lean into their strength.

Love is a power-up for me to use.

My husband is my strengthening power, ‘a power-up’, to my armor. He is the biggest and best support in my life.  My husband chauffeurs me around to run errands.  He takes me to dialysis and arranges the nest in my chair at the center before I sit in it.  He helps me believe I am beautiful even on my ugliest days.  He puts up with my mood swings.   When I need someone, he is always there.  This man is the love of my life.

My advice is to put on the armor you use to fight kidney disease every day. Have ideas and plans that help with your disease. Communicate with other people on dialysis to share stories and get information.  Go to your dialysis and doctor appointments. Gather a support network of family and friends.

Put on your armor each day
Be a Kidney Disease Warrior

Armor on! Ready! Set! Fight to Live!  Dialyze to live, don’t live to dialyze!

ABCs of Living a Positive Life

Attempt things that will come your way

Believe in yourself

Carefully choose your path

Depend on your friends

Eagerly find opportunities

Figure things out for yourself

Go as yourself everywhere

Heart needs to be open to love

Imagine your life the way you want it to be

Just go for it

Know you will make something of yourself

Love is going to come your way

Make it work

Nothing can stop you

Only you can become yourself

Purpose will give life meaning

Quality over quantity in all things

Remember you are like no one else

Someone has always loved you

Talents are hidden, find them

Understand that everything happens for reasons

Verify the truth always

Want and need will meet and create love

X-rays do not hurt

You are stronger than you know

Zero tolerance for giving up

A positive Thinking Chart for you to use.

Ways to Increase Positivity in Your Life

It’s not always easy to be positive. Let’s face it, we live in a stressful world. We face plenty of challenges and have numerous obligations. It’s no wonder it can be hard to put on a smile and think optimistically sometimes.

But a positive outlook can do wonders for you. It can relieve stress, ward off illness, help you live longer, and even attract other positive people to you. Positive thinking can generally make your life much better, so making an effort to bring more positivity in your life is worth the effort.

To help you get there, let’s talk about some ways to increase positivity in your life. With a little effort and some practice, you’ll start to feel the benefits of having an optimistic outlook.

Read Motivating Content

One of the biggest things that can influence how you see yourself and the world around you is the content you read. When you read an inspirational book, it can help your mind interpret things more positively. Reading motivational material can inspire you to overcome limitations, make better choices, and take positive actions more often.

Here are some recommendations for motivational books to read:

  • Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis
  • You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero
  • The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
  • Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life… And Maybe the World, by William H. McRaven
  • Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and Its All Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson
Read new things that will motivate your search for positive things in your life.

Turn Off the News at Night

You may not even think about it, but the time of day you read negative content can affect how well you sleep. Some say it’s best not to watch the news right before bed because it can leave you feeling anxious. And that anxiety can carry over into your dreams. Have you ever fallen asleep after watching a murder show and dreamt about death?

Put a stop to the stress and anxiety by tuning into something light-hearted, funny, or uplifting and watch it with your partner or family. Or better yet, pick up one of those inspirational books. Then look forward to a good night’s sleep.

Banish the Negativity

While eliminating all the negativity in your life is a rather lofty goal, you can certainly identify a few that you can shed. Taking some time to reflect on the things that cause you the most stress and coming up with a plan to solve or get rid of them is a worthwhile exercise.

For example, one thing that causes a great deal of stress for a lot of people is clutter. You can probably relate to this one. Seeing clutter in your home, at work or in your life can distract you from focusing on the positive things around you.

Think about it. Imagine coming home after a challenging day at work and a long commute home to find a house in disarray. Toys strewn about, dirty dishes on the counter, and laundry on the floor. Yikes!

Now, imagine coming home to a house where things are put away in their place and you can walk freely around your house without tripping over a toy or misplaced shoes. Much better, isn’t it?

Have you heard of the Marie Kondo book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up? Yes, it’s a decluttering how-to book, but it also lays out a plan for banishing negative clutter and finding joy in your life. The premise is to go through your belongings and identify the ones that spark joy. The things that spark joy, you keep it. The ones that don’t, you get rid of it.

The best way to end your day.

Get into Good Habits

Finally, we get to building good habits. We know breaking bad habits is difficult, so rather than trying to stop them, focus on developing and strengthening the good ones. As you do so, you may find yourself doing less of the bad and more of the good.

The following are some good habits to get into that are fairly easy to start:

  • Exercise more
  • Eat healthier
  • Go outdoors
  • Keep clutter out of your life
  • Smile more
  • See the good in things
  • Spend quality time with your family and friends
  • Practice gratitude
  • Meditate
  • Be kind to yourself and others

Final Thoughts

With these tips in mind, you’ll have an arsenal of ideas to increase positivity in your life and become happier and more focused. But don’t keep it to yourself. Share these ideas with loved ones. Happiness breeds happiness, so why not bring some positivity into someone else’s life?

After reading through them, what’s one way you can add positivity to your life? Share your idea in the comments.

Adding positivity to your life helps with chronic disease management. A good attitude will allow you to face what will come your way as you manage your condition.

Try one or two, or all of these ideas to increase the positive values you have within your life.

References:

1. http://time.com/5125894/is-reading-news-bad-for-you/

2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201705/5-reasons-clear-the-clutter-out-your-life

3. https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/16/03/biology-positive-habits