How to be Decisive and Take Action

Modern Day Warrior

You may wonder why there is any need for you to become a modern-day warrior and adopt a warrior mindset. What is wrong with just relaxing and enjoying life?

Well, while there is nothing wrong with relaxing per-say and while we all need to relax and lighten up from time to time, there are many scenarios where our soft and domesticated nature lets us down.

Take any situation that needs a quick and decisive decision. Few of us are forced to make important life or death situations anymore and that’s why so many of us struggle with even the simplest, easiest decisions. We find ourselves paralyzed when forced to choose what to eat. We delay important decisions in the workplace to the detriment of our careers – often resulting in lots of money lost. We stay in relationships and jobs we aren’t happy in and we often end up losing the respect of those around us, simply because we’re unable to make up our minds and act decisively.

This is a perfect example of a situation where it would be highly beneficial to have a tougher, more warrior-like mindset. Here’s how you can go about cultivating it.

Use what you know to make decisions.

Why Do You Delay?

In order to help you make decisions faster and more effectively, it’s time to think about what might be causing you to delay in the first place.

For many of us, the answer to that question has something to do with fear: fear of getting the decision wrong.

In some cases this is obvious: we might be fearful to decide which stock to invest in or which job offer to take because we don’t want to face the consequences of getting it wrong: of being stuck in a job we hate and/or losing huge amounts of money.

But many of us also struggle to make decisions about smaller things. Like what to have for dinner! Perhaps your wife or husband asked what you want and you say ‘I don’t know’.

Their response: ‘just make a decision!’

Your answer: ‘why don’t you make a decision?’

Sound familiar?

The problem here is likely that you don’t want to be responsible for getting it wrong and upsetting your partner. If you make the wrong choice and they don’t like dinner, then it might put them in a bad mood.

Likewise, you might genuinely want to be polite and give them the choice.

How to Make Decisions Quickly and be More Commanding

So how do you overcome this weakness and start making decisions more quickly?

The answer is simple: you learn to face the consequences and take responsibility.

This means you can offer for the other person to make a decision once and then make your mind up. Accept that sometimes you’ll get it wrong. Accept that they might indeed be in a bad mood. But don’t delay further: just take the consequences.

The same goes for choosing a job, choosing a project, opting to end a relationship…

Simply and quickly run through the likely outcomes of each decision. One is bad, one is worse. Stop worrying about getting it wrong and just tell yourself that you will deal with that scenario if it comes to pass.

Think about Things Differently.

How to Develop Situational Awareness

Anyone who has seen the Bourne Identity might be interested in the notion of situational awareness. There’s a scene toward the beginning of that film where Jason Bourne is trying to work out his identity. He’s alarmed at the way his own mind has been trained to work and explains that within minutes of walking into a diner, he has assessed the weight and strength of other patrons, memorized the car number plates of the cars parked outside, identified the exits and even noticed that the bartender is left-handed.

Jason Bourne stays aware of his environment.

This kind of training really does exist among intelligence officers and military personnel. It’s called ‘situational awareness’ and it essentially involves being able to quickly and easily identify key facts about your surroundings.

Situational awareness is important for everyone though and certainly for those interested in cultivating a warrior mindset. Situational awareness allows us to identify potential threats faster so that we can avoid or neutralize them. It allows us to move quickly and efficiently when the situation calls for it and ultimately it lets us keep ourselves and others safer.

Problem is, most of us have our mind on other things: things like our office, Angry Birds, debt, relationships and the girl at the office with the short skirt.

How do we get our mind back in the game and start paying attention to the things that matter to us and to those we care about?

Be aware of mind games people play around you and with you.

The OODA Loop

In the excellent Art of Manliness article, writer Brett McKay describes a method used by Air Force fighter pilot/military strategist John Boyd. OODA is a four step process that tells us to:

Observe

Orient

Decide

Act

First then, you must observe. This means that you mustn’t completely relax and kick your feet up. In neuroscience terms, you mustn’t let your ‘default mode network’ kick in (essentially, you must keep your mind on what’s happening). You should be relaxed yes, but also alert.

Position yourself in any room in such a position that you can see the maximum number of people and avoid letting people get the jump on you. A good example would be the corner of a room with your back to the wall. Remain near an exit where possible.

The next step is to orient, which in this context means looking for specific things. Establish a ‘baseline’ by thinking about the normal behaviour and conditions for a certain area. Look out for examples of deviation from this norm. Does someone look uncomfortable? Is someone inappropriately dressed? Is there a noise that shouldn’t be there?

Next decide whether or not to act and how to act. Have a plan of action and do not hesitate. Trust your instinct at this stage and if in doubt, practice caution. Someone acting suspiciously or potentially violently? Try moving away from them, or alerting them to security. Find an area has an unusual vibe? Then get your family out of there.

Practicing these tips could one day save your life and at the very least, they will help you to adopt a warrior mentality that will be felt by those around you.

As a Warrior in life, have an action plan.

Dialysis Isn’t Just Treatment Times

Dialysis is not just going to treatment for a certain set of hours.

It is dealing with doctors and nurses.

It is changing your diet.

It is fluid restriction.

It is aches and pains in your body.

It is getting ready to go to dialysis treatments and getting ready to leave those treatments.

It’s staying for your entire time and not losing your mind.

Dialysis is a mindset.

Dialysis is access surgeries and problems.

.Dialysis is lonely if you do not have a community to relate to or a family who backs you.

Dialysis means lifestyle changes.

Dialysis is a set of six doctors who see you regularly, not including the dialysis center team.

Dialysis is needles, large ones.

Dialysis is having a team that works with you, hounds you, and even yells at you over things.

You can choose to live to dialyze or choose to dialyze to live.