Sunday Soup- My Life Update

Writing- I went through book 2 this week. I like it. I think it shows growth in my MC and it gives her a background and something to do at the end of it. It’s a nice seg way into book 3 which I have not started writing yet. Book 3 will take the MC off into the mists. She will also do some training. I have ideas written down and it is cooking with my muse.

Well Being- I spent 100 dollars on a one dose med the other day. My doctor said I have resistant bacteria and wanted to whack it with something hard. I was put on a new med to try to help with the all over body pain. It helps everything but the sciatica and the shoulders. I feel better and can do things around the house with a little whining and groaning. Getting in and out of the car is interesting.

Book Reading: I bought Mercedes Lackey new books that are out and read them already. Good reading. I like her books. I also have Terry Goodkind’s new book in the Nicci Chronicles and his third Novella. I wait impatiently for his stuff

Pets- We took the dog to the vet for a drop off check up. She did not want to leave me and when we picked her up she whined at us all the way home. Silly pooch. Our cat takes over the dog’s bed at night. I think it is his way at getting back at her for kissing at him in the mornings.

Remember dialyze to live, don’t live to dialyze.

Family and Friends Christmas Letter 2019

Merry Holidays and Happy Christmas!  We hope the New Year finds you healthy and happy.

Katherine has been busy with creative things this year.  Several online art classes were taken.    It was great fun learning how to use her creative skills. There was an Art Summit in September online.  Katherine learned may new things and tried painting pieces she did not think she could. She is going to continue with it into next year with a group called Lifebook 2020.  It should be an adventure in project painting.

 She wrote a fantasy novel which is with a publisher undergoing creative editing.  She hopes they will take her second book so the series can be published by the same publisher.  The first book tells the story of a photographic archaeologist who finds an ancient map showing a human settlement no one knows about.  She sets out on an expedition to find it.  The second book tells about her study of six clans on one of her planet’s continent and her relationship to them.  Does she belong?  It was fun writing in the Fantasy genre. There may be a third book in the series, too.

 In November, Katherine celebrated 21 years of being on dialysis. 

Victor continues his studies.  He received an award from Loma Linda for his participation as a model in the prosthetics building classes.  We attended a promotion ceremony where the students gave presentation on their projects. We were surprised when one presentation by a student team had Victor in the pictures as their study model.  He enjoys helping the students.

Unfortunately, Victor was driving our little Toyota Corolla IM when we were involved in an accident.  We were all right, but the car was a mess.  We hit someone making a right when we were making a protected left turn.  Things happen when people get in a hurry.  The air bags inflated protecting us. I was black and blue and sore after it. We bought a Toyota Corolla Hybrid to replace it after our insurance took care of the wrecked car.

I hope the holidays and next year are happy time for everyone.  Blessings from the Universe.

Katherine and Victor Soto

Rialto, CA

Saying Goodbye to 2019: It was an adventure

2019

January

Discovered Art journaling through Determined to Shine. Did 30 Days of Journaling.

I wrote my book- Grey of Dharaven- Katz Island January through February.

February

Violet turned 3. We went to a bowling alley for her birthday.  She likes bowling because her Daddy bowls in a league.

Thriving on Dialysis published on RSNHope.org

March

Mom stayed with us for a week or so while floors were done in her house.

April

April 3 Car accident  Head on into someone else.  Car was totaled.

Bought new car- Toyota Corolla Hybrid 2020 model

April 11  Kaiser overnight visit.

Interviewed by Chronic Disease Coalition

May

Safari Park Trip with Anita for Mother’s Day

June

MWD Tour of Henry J. Mills Water Treatment Plant with Mom and Melissa.

Nesting on Dialysis published on RSPHope.org

July

I spent six days in Kaiser with Flu, low cortisol levels and low BP.

Maria, Shelly and Oliver came to visit form Oklahoma.

August

My book was accepted by Rhet Askew Publishers

September

Beach Trip to Oceanside with Anita.

Online Art Summit  Did art work I never thought I could do.

October

Las Vegas Trip for IHD.com  October 5-15   Saw four shows. Spent time with friends from Ireland.  Had a great time.

November

2 21st Dialysis Anniversary Brought cake to dialysis center to celebrate.

13 Victor’s 74th Birthday Ihop Dinner after dialysis.

19 Our 34th Wedding Anniversary  Cake at Mom’s house with everyone.

Started You Can Write Essays. com

December

I completed a solstice walk with a group online. Wisdom.

21st Christmas with Violet, Dave and Danielle.  Marilyn and Mom came, also.

22nd Mills Family Christmas Party  Victor received money. I have a Barnes and Noble gift card 40.00  Mom got cookies in tins.

My Book’s Creative Editing Letter arrived. I have work to do.

Jennifer Adair passed away. She is a dear friend of mine.

Participated in Ten Minute Drill through Askew Publishing. My team was the Copacetic Crazies.

I finished the rough draft of Book 2.  I will begin its editing process.

More December Thoughts:

December is my birthday month.  I celebrate all month long.  It is a brilliant idea.  Every time I have a treat, I wish myself a happy birthday.  I also check how old I will be.  What a shock that is!  I am not telling it here. 

I finished writing my second book about Grey Dawn Cloudstorm.  In this book she takes a Study Expedition into the Clan on Aven.  She discovers more about herself and her family in this book. I will do several edits on it. 

The first book is in creative editing- Beta Readers with the publishing company.  I await more work to come on it

Hints and Tips for surviving the holidays:

Do what you can.  You don’t have to do everything.

Remember to ask for help when you need it. 

Hang up the phones and the computers for a while.  Go do something different.

Sometimes the dust and stuff have to be ignored while you accomplish other things. No guilt about it!

Art and writing- creativity is proving to be something that should be done regularly.  It helps to center oneself.  It is about “Flow” and getting into it.  It relaxes the body and energizes the mind. 

Sometimes what other people do for you is okay even though it is not the way you would have done it.

Online buying of gifts is a great way to save time and stress on your body.

Above all, take time to enjoy the Season.

December Thoughts

December 1: 30 days until my birthday. What are my birthday wishes? The usual peace on Earth, peace between the races, kindness to everyone, the end to bullying in all areas, especially between children, and that illnesses be cured.

Yet I know the world has not grown enough for these things to happen. World peace only happens when governments agree. Peace between the races will come as we realize that color differences are not important and all people are equal. It is what is inside us that make differences. Kindness happens when everyone treats one another in a loving way first. Bullying is especially on my mind. Our children should not have to live in fear from their classmates. They should not be bullied to the point of suicide. Someone needs to step in and know what is happening in our children’s lives. I am looking at natural, safe ways to heal illnesses. I know mine are here with me, yet some can be changed if I work on it.

Since I know I cannot have most of what I want, I will wish for ones I can do. Here are my December birthday wishes:

  1. I want to keep to my new eating plan.
  2. I want to be below 100 kilos by December 31.
  3. I am going to stretch my muscles daily this month.
  4. I will increase my exercise.
  5. I will enjoy each day and have fun this month.
  6. I will enjoy Christmas early with my kids and granddaughter and mother. I will allow the Holiday to be what it is.
  7. I will enjoy going out even though I hurt and getting in and out of the car hurts.
  8. I will work with my pain pills to help keep my pain manageable.

I think I wrote new year’s wishes, but December will be a starting place.

You Got to Find Your Own Joy

You oversee whether you will be miserable or find some joy in a life full of chronic illness. You hold the wheel and determine the course.  If Joy is out of reach, stretch yourself. It’s right there in front of you.

Here are 15 Ideas to Help You Stretch for Joy

Take your meds as prescribed.  The pain will be less.

Do something fun each day. 

Tell a joke to someone.

Find the fun in things you do. Realize you are HERE to do them.

Join a support group. Try a few groups out until your find the one that is your tribe.

Find a support group in your area where they meet. Seeing real people with the same problems relieves your stress.

Admit when you need help.  Ask for it.

If someone asks, “How can I help?” Give them a job or chore to do. Shopping, going to the post office, running an errand for you is a great way for them to help. Make a list every week. Call them up when you need help.  Your friends are standing around wanting to help you.  “Can you pick up bananas for me?”

There are Art Therapy classes online.

              DeterminedtoShine on Facebook has free and inexpensive classes that offer journal art as a way to learn about yourself.

              https://www.willowing.org/product/life-book-2020/  Offers art to women to help find themselves in their lives.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/redthreadcafeclassrooom/ A tribe of women who support each other through art.

Find the art that speaks to you. 

Color in one of the new adult coloring books.  I have a Swear Word coloring book, among my design coloring books.  Get the crayons, pencils and markers out.

Read or reread a favorite book.  Buy a new book to read.

Write in a journal every day. Pour out those feelings.  Take a meditation and writing course with https://nadiacolburn.com/   She does free courses and has a class you can pay for.

Get out more.  Take a walk. Go to the mall.  

Eat out once a week.  Even the dollar menu will get you out of the house eating something new. Take a friend with you.

Get a therapist either in person or online and talk to them really truly talk to them.

I do have tried all of these things and do some of them. Take what works for you. It takes work to put joy into your life. Don’t let the Chronic Illness steal it, Take it back. Reach for it.

Thoughts on Things

(Written in 2016. I think it still applies.)

I have waited a few weeks to get my mind around the stuff I see posted on Social Media so here goes. We live in a connected world, instant messaging, computer screens on our dining tables, computers in our phones, we can call anyone anywhere and take a video while we do it. While we have become more connected we have allowed ourselves to become less connected with one another. We talk and communicate to the technology, not each other.

We see opportunity to take one another to task for behavior that has been around a long, long time and has not been corrected. We argue to make our own points and rarely listen to one another’s real words and meanings. The meanness and bad attitudes we see get put into videos daily and then are posted to social media for over half the world to see. Things go viral whether they really deserve our time.

I think young children get along with each other until they reach the age where they are exposed to our world through their parents’ attitudes and the social media. More and more we are allowing social media to speak our loud mouths. Discrimination has been around a long, long time. We are all immigrants through relatives way back in America. As each set of immigrants made its ways to the US it too was discriminated against. Even back to the Mayflower and Colonial times,people were sent to the colonies to get rid of trouble makers and here we are many years later still dealing with trouble makers of our own.

When we learn to speak with our hearts and think with our minds before saying or doing anything, then we shall become smarter, kinder and more creative beings.

21st Dialysisversary!

My Going to Dialysis is now old enough to drink in the state of California.

Kortnee Greenfield courtesy Unsplash

21 years of 3 days a week dialysis.

21 years, 3 days a week Let’s see 52 weeks in a year

52*3=156 days of dialysis in a year.

156 times 21 years =3276 days of dialysis in my life.

2 needles in my arm is double 3276 and

we get 7552 size 15 to 16 needles in my arm.

I need a cake to celebrate! I have gone to every dialysis treatment I had to go to over twenty years. Every damn one of them!

Here’s to Life Not on the List! Here’s to me! 21 Again!

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My Favorite Reading Space

I usually read before I go to sleep in bed. 

However, my all-time favorite reading space is

on a comfortable chair or couch

wrapped up in a warm blanket,

pillows surrounding my head like pillows.

Slippers might be on my socks

Keeping my feet toasty warm.

Getting ready to read.

 A cup of hot cocoa awaits me

when from time to time

 I remember to turn

from my reading to drink from it.

There might be a small plate of cookies near that cocoa

For me to munch on as I read my book.

or a cup of hot soup Is brought with crackers,

because too wrapped up in reading

I forgot about eating lunch.

Reading suggestions:

Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff

Sword of TruthWizard’s First Rule by Terry Goodkind

#TheTearCollector is out for Preorder. Book comes out December 2, 2019. #writeaskew

Putting Happiness into Your Life

When you have a chronic illness it is difficult sometimes to be happy. I think we tend to sink into the negative aspects of our illness and forget that we can be creatures of happiness in spite of a chronic illness.

Marci Shimoff author of Happy for No Reason and Love for No Reason spoke in the webinar Extraordinary Life after 40 Summit on happiness.  She said she was always unhappy even when she was on tour for her book on happiness.  She learned that everyone has a happiness set point: 10% circumstances, 40 % Habits, 50 % genes.  You can change 50 % of it through what you do in circumstances and your habits.  A change in habits can also influence your DNA. 

Changing your habits help your bodies response to negativity.  Most people respond to negativity.  It’s what we remember most about our day.  Changing this through a simple action can help. 

Write down 5 happy things from your day.  

Velcro the positive into your day, Teflon the negative. 

Three steps for helping reset your happiness point

  1. Look for the positive in your day.
  2. Savor the positive for at least 20 seconds.
  3. When your have a negative thought, make sure to have three positive thoughts, too

Become a creature of happiness.

Find your happiness.