It’s about Respect

I hope everything is going your way.  The world is sure in a state right now.  It can be a frightening place to live in.  I see what is happening due to racial bias and racism. People draw lines between each other instead of building those precious bridges of communication.  Here are my small pieces of simple advice.
Respect yourself. You are the most important person in your world. Take care of you- heart, soul, spirit, and body.Respect others. Other people deserve respect. If you do not like them, leave them alone.Respect property. If it does not belong to you leave it alone.Keep your hands, feet, and objects to yourself. This is a simple rule.  Sometimes I think people forget this one.Last, when dealing with people, err on the side of love. 

I know you probably said “Duh” to my advice,but when you see the news and how people are reacting, it is obvious these simple ideas have been forgotten. 

I hope all is well with you.

Missing Things

I miss the normal life, but then I never had one. I would love to go see my Mom. I want my grandchild and daughter to visit. I want to go out to dinner and eat food that is not the same old thing. I want things that make life bearable. I miss the bookstore and the local thrift stores. Finding treasure is what I miss the most.

I want to accept the pain I live in every day all day. Someone told me to love my pain, but I have not discovered a way to do that, yet. Each day I rise, get dressed and do what must be done. I do not do a lot, mostly sit at my desk and write my book series. I do art work, drawing and painting to try to help with the creative flow. I miss a life without pain, but then again, I doubt I ever had one.

I am content, thought, deep inside my soul. I live and breathe each day. I try to keep happiness uppermost. I chat with people online and on the phone. I spend time with my husband. Life is good.

You say the seasons we go through in our lives change and are marked by celebrations or things that happen to us. Covid-9 has become a season in our lives this year. It has had everything connected with a season to be impacting our lives. My life int his season has been marked with anxiety peaking its head up over my shoulder. I tell it to go away, then find myself in it, working my way through its worries and stress. I draw and paint, I write, I communicate with friends online.

I try to start mark this time with small celebrations of life. A picture of brightness, a funny photo, a memory, a written story and things that make me happy. This season is going to take its time for all of us.

I am still here!

Pic by Karol Franks

It’s a strange world.  I never imagined I would see a worldwide pandemic in my lifetime. I was going to give tips on how to stay busy at home, but I figure if you haven’t figured it out by now…  Here is an update on my life, instead.

My Writing:
I sent my creative edits on book one of Grey of Dharaven to the publisher and am waiting to hear back about it. I am editing book 2 and have beta readers reading it for content. I finished writing the third book in the series. I started to write the fourth book. 
An author dilemma hit me.  I hated the way I ended book 3, so I took book four’s beginning and made it book 3s ending.  I began book 4 over again and like it much better. Writing can be frustrating, as well as exciting.

Book 1
Grey Dawn of Dharaven: Katz Island: A map found by Earth Dragon Clan born archaeologist Grey Fields leads to an expedition that everyone else thinks is crazy. Not Lara Croft, but National Treasure-ish adventures leading either to the end of her career or the find of the century. #A #AD #F    (To be published 2021)

Art lessons:
Check out my affiliate please. There is a link to it on my web pages. The paintings below are two pieces I painted with the lessons from this site.

What I have been reading:
Alfred Hitchcock  The Best of Mystery (1976)  A collection of short stories that have murder and mayhem in them.
Shadow and Bones by Leigh Bardugo (2012)  A fantasy adventure. Its a good read.
Spy by Danielle Steel  (2019)  A typical Danielle Steel novel. It’s about a woman who becomes a spy in WWII.
Current reading: Arcady by Michael Williams (1996). Another Fantasy adventure that tells the story of a family and their relationships to their house and world.

Food Ideas:
Cottage cheese on toast with cinnamon sugar on top
Gluten free tortilla, egg whites, cheese and bacon
Chicken burritos- I use frozen and put them in my air fryer: 400* for 12 minutes

Share what you are reading, doing, or eating on my Facebook group at   Like my page please.

Here’s a site for ideas of things to do while you are home.

Loving My Pain

I wrote two pages in my journal of a letter to my pain.  I am having a lot of trouble letting go of the anger to the pain.  I am angry about pain, I am angry I have pain and I hate having pain.  I would suggest that this is a lot of my pain.  I don’t really love it right now.  I am fighting it each day.  When I tell my self I love my pain I laugh maniacally in my mind.  It is hard to manage.  What am I to do with it?  I am not asking you this question, but pain itself. Where does it belong in my life.  Why does it have to be here?  Is there a serious lesson I have to learn from it?  What am I do with my anger toward it?  

I know what love is.  This pain is not love, is it?  It loves to hurt.  

I don’t know if I can do this loving of my pain. It’s hard to do.

I live with it everyday. Try loving your pain. How do I do it?

Sunday Soup- My Life Update

Writing- I went through book 2 this week. I like it. I think it shows growth in my MC and it gives her a background and something to do at the end of it. It’s a nice seg way into book 3 which I have not started writing yet. Book 3 will take the MC off into the mists. She will also do some training. I have ideas written down and it is cooking with my muse.

Well Being- I spent 100 dollars on a one dose med the other day. My doctor said I have resistant bacteria and wanted to whack it with something hard. I was put on a new med to try to help with the all over body pain. It helps everything but the sciatica and the shoulders. I feel better and can do things around the house with a little whining and groaning. Getting in and out of the car is interesting.

Book Reading: I bought Mercedes Lackey new books that are out and read them already. Good reading. I like her books. I also have Terry Goodkind’s new book in the Nicci Chronicles and his third Novella. I wait impatiently for his stuff

Pets- We took the dog to the vet for a drop off check up. She did not want to leave me and when we picked her up she whined at us all the way home. Silly pooch. Our cat takes over the dog’s bed at night. I think it is his way at getting back at her for kissing at him in the mornings.

Remember dialyze to live, don’t live to dialyze.

Family and Friends Christmas Letter 2019

Merry Holidays and Happy Christmas!  We hope the New Year finds you healthy and happy.

Katherine has been busy with creative things this year.  Several online art classes were taken.    It was great fun learning how to use her creative skills. There was an Art Summit in September online.  Katherine learned may new things and tried painting pieces she did not think she could. She is going to continue with it into next year with a group called Lifebook 2020.  It should be an adventure in project painting.

 She wrote a fantasy novel which is with a publisher undergoing creative editing.  She hopes they will take her second book so the series can be published by the same publisher.  The first book tells the story of a photographic archaeologist who finds an ancient map showing a human settlement no one knows about.  She sets out on an expedition to find it.  The second book tells about her study of six clans on one of her planet’s continent and her relationship to them.  Does she belong?  It was fun writing in the Fantasy genre. There may be a third book in the series, too.

 In November, Katherine celebrated 21 years of being on dialysis. 

Victor continues his studies.  He received an award from Loma Linda for his participation as a model in the prosthetics building classes.  We attended a promotion ceremony where the students gave presentation on their projects. We were surprised when one presentation by a student team had Victor in the pictures as their study model.  He enjoys helping the students.

Unfortunately, Victor was driving our little Toyota Corolla IM when we were involved in an accident.  We were all right, but the car was a mess.  We hit someone making a right when we were making a protected left turn.  Things happen when people get in a hurry.  The air bags inflated protecting us. I was black and blue and sore after it. We bought a Toyota Corolla Hybrid to replace it after our insurance took care of the wrecked car.

I hope the holidays and next year are happy time for everyone.  Blessings from the Universe.

Katherine and Victor Soto

Rialto, CA

Saying Goodbye to 2019: It was an adventure



Discovered Art journaling through Determined to Shine. Did 30 Days of Journaling.

I wrote my book- Grey of Dharaven- Katz Island January through February.


Violet turned 3. We went to a bowling alley for her birthday.  She likes bowling because her Daddy bowls in a league.

Thriving on Dialysis published on


Mom stayed with us for a week or so while floors were done in her house.


April 3 Car accident  Head on into someone else.  Car was totaled.

Bought new car- Toyota Corolla Hybrid 2020 model

April 11  Kaiser overnight visit.

Interviewed by Chronic Disease Coalition


Safari Park Trip with Anita for Mother’s Day


MWD Tour of Henry J. Mills Water Treatment Plant with Mom and Melissa.

Nesting on Dialysis published on


I spent six days in Kaiser with Flu, low cortisol levels and low BP.

Maria, Shelly and Oliver came to visit form Oklahoma.


My book was accepted by Rhet Askew Publishers


Beach Trip to Oceanside with Anita.

Online Art Summit  Did art work I never thought I could do.


Las Vegas Trip for  October 5-15   Saw four shows. Spent time with friends from Ireland.  Had a great time.


2 21st Dialysis Anniversary Brought cake to dialysis center to celebrate.

13 Victor’s 74th Birthday Ihop Dinner after dialysis.

19 Our 34th Wedding Anniversary  Cake at Mom’s house with everyone.

Started You Can Write Essays. com


I completed a solstice walk with a group online. Wisdom.

21st Christmas with Violet, Dave and Danielle.  Marilyn and Mom came, also.

22nd Mills Family Christmas Party  Victor received money. I have a Barnes and Noble gift card 40.00  Mom got cookies in tins.

My Book’s Creative Editing Letter arrived. I have work to do.

Jennifer Adair passed away. She is a dear friend of mine.

Participated in Ten Minute Drill through Askew Publishing. My team was the Copacetic Crazies.

I finished the rough draft of Book 2.  I will begin its editing process.