Today’s art journal asked for advice we have heard and used. I was watching Oprah Winfrey one afternoon. They were talking with women about men. I do not remember who was on the show with Oprah, but I have never forgotten their advice.
Men don’t change. If you think you are going to change him after you marry him, it will not happen. Men only change to please themselves, or if something forces the issue. You, as his wife, are not one of those forces. So what can you do? You change, or you make changes to work around or with him, or you change your attitude towards what bothers you. If you find you cannot live with the changes you have to make, then seriously reconsider your relationship.
Married 33 years now. I use this advice regularly.